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New Headshot for Mom

03/25/2010

(Erika/Mom) I’ve been using the same photo for almost all of my online activity (except this blog): Twitter, Facebook, bios, etc. The photo was taken in the summer of 2005, in a little grove of lemon trees and I just love it:

But…2005? That was five years ago! I’m starting to feel dishonest. While I look pretty much the same, there’s just no way that this can be considered a recent photo. It’s like using a resume that you haven’t updated in awhile. I don’t like the fact that I look older, or somewhat heavier, but it’s the truth. This was driven home to me a few months ago at a meeting I attended where we could post stuff live on Twitter. The guy who was speaking looked around the room (and it was not a huge room) and said he was looking for the resident Twitterer (me) but couldn’t seem to find her. Hmmm; maybe because my hair was about six inches longer, my face wasn’t professionally made up, and, well, time has passed.

So this week I decided to ask my friend and wonderful photographer Simon Alexander to get me an updated face. Of course before heading into NYC to do the shoot I had to figure out what to wear. And as usual, I had to do it fast. While trying to return a few things in Princeton I rushed into Ann Taylor with about four minutes left on my parking meter. They had lots of pretty things meant for layering. I loved all of the ruffles and prints, but didn’t indulge this time. Instead, my eye was caught by a steel-gray cardigan with tiny silk rosebuds framing the front. I paired it with a champagne camisole I already have, and some dark gray pants. Then for a splash of color I borrowed Lizzi’s orange LV scarf. Here is the final presentation:

So where’s the professional NYC headshot, you ask? I’m still deliberating. You’re going to have to check back in, or Google me in a few weeks. But thanks to a good haircut, some serious highlights, and great makeup (all thanks to the Village Salon in Pennington), I think that five years have been good to me.

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Mixing Patterns

03/08/2010

(Erika/Mom) An easy costume for Halloween is to dress like a nerd. All you have to do is find startlingly patterned pants, and pair them with an equally startling patterned shirt. Voila–instant comedy.

We all live in dread of wearing an outfit that clashes, but sometimes a bit of pattern mixing results in a really great look. Lizzi and I often look at the wild combos in Teen Vogue and Seventeen–darn it, they always just seem to work! Kristen O’Reilly, in a post last April in Idiosyncratic Style, dares us to mix it up and her examples are really wonderful. It’s like looking at a bowl of mixed candy: sure, the colors and patterns vary wildly, but the big picture is pleasing to the eye.

Yesterday Lizzi and I tested our pattern savvy at the mall. Each of us chose an outfit with lots of pattern (and the rule was, NO picking merchandise already put together by the store!) I chose Macy’s and the two of us perused the racks, starting with a graphic silk skirt with a black border. We tried it with a very loud (but really cool) blouse with a swirly green and white pattern. Even with a complementing black belt, the overall effect is rather bizarre:

So then I went safe, pairing the skirt with an off-white cardigan.
Yeah.
Don’t see fireworks? Neither did we.

Still having green in my mind’s eye, I rounded the corner and both of us spotted this button-front cardigan with just a hint of tie-dye.

“I like it, but too groovy, maybe?” I asked Lizzi.
“Try it on,” said she.

So I did, grabbing a simple white blouse with lots of ruffles to put on underneath. We decided this one’s a winner:

Here is an example of two pieces I never would have thought to wear together, let alone buy together. But we both instantly voted yes on this outfit, as the stodgy skirt got a jolt of color and fun from the top. I probably could have gone a little more adventurous on the belt. Shoes? Well, you could go chartreuse suede with some serious heels, ballet flats, or laceup boots. Lots of choices. This experiement was a lot of fun and what’s more, it pushed me out of my long-held fashion conventions that much more.

Now it’s Lizzi’s turn!

(Lizzi/Daughter) Mixing patterns isn’t as hard as it looks. Polka dots and checkers, plaid and stripes, leopard and floral… it all works. Of course, there are times when an outfit can go way too far when mixing patterns… and after Mom and I visited the mall, we found multiple different ways that an outfit could be safe, sorry, or just right.

As you can see, mixing patterns is big this season so I was excited to look at all the choices Mom and I had to create outfits for ourselves!


DVF SS10


Marc Jacobs SS10

I went to Forever 21 to find my outfits and they had many choices. I went with a gray boat-neck top and an orange and white striped cami for the main pieces.

First, I decided to pair the outfit with a blue and black skirt with an Aztec print.

It obviously doesn’t look good, so I switched to a pair of light pink leggings, to play it safe.

Finally, I tried on the same skirt as before but in black and white…

… and finally! an outfit that works.

This shows that not only patterns can make an outfit clash, but so can color!!!

10 Reasons We Hate Getting Dressed

02/18/2010


(Erika/Mom) It’s winter, in case you were wondering. Getting dressed is a lot harder when it’s cold freezing. But no matter what the season, there are certain things about wearing clothes that remind us….well, that we are not in heaven yet. When Lizzi and I compiled our list, we realized that much of our wardrobe woes stemmed from garments that don’t fit right. Makes you envy those privileged souls who have their clothing tailor-made, or who make their own. There really is a huge advantage in avoiding off-the-rack dressing when you can. Because you’re always going to hassle with stuff like this:

Erika’s Top Five Peeves
1. Poor fabric. Almost everything looks good when it’s brand new and in a well-lighted store. The real test comes after washing and wearing, many, many times. Expect fading, stretching (or shrinking), and of course everyone’s favorite, ripped seams. That’s why it’s probably better to buy fewer things at a time, but replace them a bit more frequently. I’m not one to talk, since some of my clothes date back to the last century. But I’m planning a big spring purge this year.

2. Bra bulge. Lizzi doesn’t have this problem–I do and probably lots of other women in their 40s (at least I hope I’m not alone). Even if you aren’t overweight, you just soften up a lot as you age. Those soft bulges are NOT attractive. Some experts say that it’s because your bra is too big or not adjusted properly. Real Simple recently ran a piece on getting bras right; I’m going to check out some of their recommendations this year.

3. One sock (or one earring) syndrome. So many of my favorite earrings and socks-that-don’t-fall-down are MIA. Just one remains to taunt me.

Here’s a solution: We need to band together and start wearing mismatched earrings and socks like it’s a fashion statement. Really. If enough of us do it without looking embarrassed it just might catch on. Or maybe we just say “who gives a d*mn” and do it anyway.

4. Pant hems that drag on the ground. It’s annoying in the summer but it drives me nuts in the winter. THIS unfortunate wardrobe mishap is happily not one I subscribe to, but unhappily lots of other people do. Lizzi can maybe elaborate more intelligently on why teenagers in particular like to drag fabric through dirt, salt, slush, and Lord knows what other goodies on the streets and sidewalks.

5. No dressy coats live in your closet. Most days I hardly give a second thought to my coat inventory. But those frigid nights when you happen to be going out, looking pretty good in your thin dress and thinner hose/tights…and you must choose between freezing to death and wearing a Garbstore Mountain Providence Parka it dawns on you that outerwear is an important component of looking good. This parka is very cute in other circumstances but not on date night.

So there you go. Some of the reasons we reach for the jeans, clogs, husband’s sweater, sports bra and skip the jewelry in the morning. But there’s always another day, and another attempt, tomorrow. Now for Lizzi’s list:

Lizzi’s Top Five Peeves

1. Sagging tights. In the winter, especially in New Jersey, it’s basically mandatory to wear tights when wearing a skirt or a dress. Except no matter how many times or how far I pull my tights up, they always seem to slip right back down. And I know I’m not the only one who has experienced this since I have seen a couple of my friends’ struggle with their own low-hanging tights… if you know what I mean.

2. Straps hanging by a thread. (literally!)This sort of goes along with mom’s first peeve. Yesterday, I wore a cute cami under a jacket and as I had one of my friends adjust it, the strap broke off and I had to walk around all day with my jacket zipped up all the way until I was able to find a safety pin. Now that’s a real fashion emergency!

3. Your favorite top has a stain on it– cause unknown. “Ahhh… I love this shir– ew! Where the heck did that come from!?”

4. Colors that run. Last week, after I threw my red acid wash jeans in the laundry, everything else came out pink. This includes, my gray sweater (which is now a grayish pink), my light pink socks (which are now a very dark redish pink), and my dad’s underwear (which are now bright pink). Sorry Dad.

5. Correction: black does NOT look good with everything. What I hate the most is when you put on a black sweater or top, but you can’t tell it’s black because of all the animal hair covering it. It sucks for me because I have two cats who love to snuggle and a puppy who clings to you like a barnacle.

Lizzi & Erika’s Look of the Day

01/31/2010

Last night, I went to a movie with my dad and sister and decided to dress up a little for no particular movie. We saw “When in Rome” which was very good! I wore a cream ruffled DKNY top from Macy’s, a pair of black jeans from Nordstrom, a pair of brown Steve Madden boots that I recieved for Christmas, and a brown cardigan bought from Nordstrom.

While I was out seeing a movie, Mom went to a country western concert and dinner with some of her girlfriends. She wore a black cardigan with a faux-fur collar bought from Greene Street consignment, a deep pink silk top from Greene Street consignment, a pair of cool dark-wash jeans from H&M, and a pair of black Chinese Laundry fringed boots (which are rather hard to see because they’re black).

Last night was a real fun and fashionable night for both of us!

Short-Waisted People

01/06/2010

Short Waist
Remember the old Randy Newman song about short people? Yeah, I’m glad it isn’t played anymore, too. But I was reminded of it when contemplating my own fashion nemesis: a short waist, paired with a not-so-small torso.

When the distance between your breasts and your waist can be measured between thumb and index finger, you’ll understand. A perfectly ordinary blouse tucked into fitted pants or a belt minding its own business on your natural waistline can look ghastly. I asked Lizzi which items in my wardrobe weren’t the most flattering and she immediately named a favorite nubbly tank top that is too short for me. It hits right about my waistline and immediately turns my entire figure into a rectangle. I keep thinking of my grandpa Ted, whose trousers seemed to reach up to his armpits. Us kids used to snicker about that but the image comes back to me disturbingly sometimes when I look in the mirror.

There is good news, though. I never thought I’d say this, but today’s lower-waisted pants are actually flattering for short waists. Look at the pants in the opening photo. This clever woman used a Vogue pattern to make these pants and simply moved the waistline down on the pattern by an inch or so. I think they look really good on her short-waisted figure. Here is a pair of jeans, from Boston Proper, that would also work well on short waists:
Boston Proper Rio fit jeans

The other piece of good news is that while your waist is off limits, you’ve got two other prime areas to highlight: the hips and the breastbone. Empire-waisted tops and dresses look really pretty and tend to elongate the torso. Here is a sweater dress from Boston Proper, paired with tights and boots, that I really like:
Boston Proper empire sweater dress

I see lots of petite, short-waisted women wearing short- or waist-length jackets–likely because they think they would be overwhelmed by longer lengths. In my opinion, it’s not the best choice. You don’t want to look like a little girl wearing her mom’s clothes…but if you have any excess middle weight, longer hemlines almost always look better. This jacket, for example, would look good on a petite, short-waisted woman. The 3/4-length sleeves are a stylish touch:
Jacket-Boston Proper

Lizzi and I both think the shirt I’m wearing below is a winner. I think I got it at Macys:
Ruffled shirt
Empire waist, nice cleavage, little ruffles (my new obsession)…this comfortable top is great for summer (as seen here in Verona, Italy) as well as peeking out under a cardigan or jacket. And yes, that is an empty beer mug in front of me. I’m aware that beer does not a small waist make. But it was Italy in July–I didn’t care!

10 Ways to Know You (and perhaps your daughter) Are a Shopaholic

11/20/2009

1. You scavenge the recycle bin for catalogs your husband threw away but you haven’t “read” yet.

2. You know all of your 16-digit credit card numbers, as well as the 3- and 4-digit authorization codes, by heart

3. Your grocery cart ratio of impulse buys to necessary staples is 5:1.

4. Confessions of a Shopaholic was not funny. At all.

5. Visiting college campuses means finding the student store for T-shirts.

6. When you tell your daughter that “we are only window-shopping” and she looks at you like “what’s the point?”

7. You save all your shopping bags and stuff them in the corner of your closet or bedroom because you can’t bear to throw them away.

8. When you are just about to leave Macy’s, you pass by the shoe section and spend another two hours there trying on shoes.

9. It doesn’t matter who you’re shopping for, as long as you’re at the mall, you are completely and 100% satisfied.

10. You and your mom plan 2 back-to-school shopping trips. The first is in New York City and the second, one of the biggest malls in America.

I Hate My Wardrobe

10/30/2009

dreary closet

(Erika/Mom) A few mornings back, I shivered into my attic closet and couldn’t find anything I wanted to wear. All of a sudden I hated everything. This is not characteristic of me; normally I am cheerful and optimistic about my chances of wearing something that looks decent without labeling me as a “mom in mom pants” or worse yet, a slob.

The all-too-familiar patterns of all-too-well-worn shirts and blouses hung tiredly in their places. Limp cable-knit sweaters melted together with blended-fiber turtlenecks and miscellaneous cardigans. Two pairs of jeans folded neatly among some decidedly high-waisted mom pants that Lizzi begs me not to wear. So I wear my jeans a lot. I spent months looking for slim black pants that didn’t give me a muffin-top belly; never found ’em. Most of my dresses are from the mid- to late 1990s–classics or has-beens, depending on your mood.

So we all get the problem–or do we? I’ve been thinking about this quite deeply, and decided that in my case, it’s not about having anything decent to wear. It’s more about laziness and under-utilizing observation and experimentation. Most of us evaluate our wardrobe in the morning, which isn’t always the best time for creativity. Rows of clothes are scanned quickly and our eye picks up the same things over and over again. Anyone who shops like this is bound to leave the store disappointed. My mother shops like this and it drives me nuts. How can you find something unless you really look for it? Clothing will not come out and curtsy to you. You gotta dig, man.

Same thing with our own closets. Digging a little deeper, I discovered (or re-discovered) a few things that have great potential, worn right. Take this blouse, for example:

I've had this lacy blouse for longer than I care to admit. It's from The Limited and is still in great shape.

I've had this lacy blouse for longer than I care to admit. It's from The Limited and is still in great shape.

By itself, it’s pretty blah. But if I take the time to pair it up with another shirt and some interesting accessories, it really takes on a new life. The first set is the blouse over a Macys v-neck tank and a long necklace doubled over:

This combo is much better, I think. With some acid-washed jeans and shoes other than mom-clogs I could hold my head up.

This combo is much better, I think. With some acid-washed jeans and shoes other than mom-clogs I could hold my head up.

Going one step further, I fished out an old Cabi belt that I bought in 2005. I never wear it, but it’s actually really pretty. (Lizzi, tell me if I’m delusional here.) Anyway, adding the sparkling belt with a really soft scarf in an incredible shade of blue, I came up with this:

It's possible...for a plain yellow pumpkin to become a golden carriage...a Cinderella transformation of my old blouse.

It's possible...for a plain yellow pumpkin to become a golden carriage...a Cinderella transformation of my old blouse.

So what do you think Lizzi?

(Lizzi/Daughter) Mom, I think you should stop wearing your clogs and start wearing your awesome belts!

I do agree that a lot of your clothes are a little bit old, but if you dress things up like you did to that blouse, you’ll be the most fashionable mom on the block (even though you already are…). Even though it’s easier for me to always have new things because I’m still growing, on most days, I’ll look at my clothes and totally hate what I see. I think we all have those days.

A better way for me to pick out my clothes is to do it the night before, when I’m not so groggy. I also like to ask Mom for help because she always thinks of things to pair together that I would never think of.

The other day, I really hated how small my wardrobe was compared to my friends’ and asked my mom for help. She told me to pair a gray sweater vest with a striped sweater, which I thought would look really odd, but it ended up being my favorite outfit of the week.

A great accessory to add to your wardrobe is a belt. Belts can either accessorize your pants or your top. The best place to put your belt is at your waist, like mom did. You can belt anything from cardigans to loose tunics (think medieval!)

Like this:
belted cardigan and tunic

Mom and I are going to try and feature more “reality” posts with our own clothes, so excuse us while we go tidy up our closets.

Summer Clothes for Cold Weather

10/19/2009

Warm tights make summer shorts work for fall. If you're Kate Moss or a teen, that is.

Warm tights make summer shorts work for fall. If you're Kate Moss or a teen, that is.


(Erika/Mom) Perhaps we’re taking this “economy-is-bad-use-everything-you-have” business a little too far. Still, Lizzi and I agree that keeping a few of your favorite warm weather pieces in circulation through fall and winter is a good thing. They extend your wardrobe, and they remind you while your fingers are freezing off that the cold weather will pass and warm, sunny days are ahead. So now let’s see what Lizzi has in mind for the younger set, then I’ll chime in on what pieces might work for us boomer moms.

(Lizzi/Daughter) Well, fall has finally arrived after a long summer vacation and winter is not far behind. After all the summer shopping trips you took these past few months, you probably don’t feel like spending any more money on clothes. So, don’t let those denim shorts and colorful frocks go to waste; wear them in the cold weather, too!

I know all you moms who are reading this right now are thinking, “What?! I can’t let my delicate child wear shorts in the cold weather! She’ll freeze to death!” You need to chill out–or should I say warm up–to these stylish layering ideas that pair summer favorites with winter insulation. (Mom’s right behind me on this one… no, literally, she’s sitting right behind me!)

A good place to start is with your tank tops and camisoles. From plain white to neon pink to patterned, anything works as long as you have the right clothing items to pair with your tank.

Let’s start with something simple, like this white cotton tank. I’m sure most people have a white tank somewhere in their closet. To make it work in winter, pair it with a simple black blazer, acid wash jeans, and motorcycle boots. If you want a softer look, try a pair of legging jeans in a neutral color like black or gray with a pair of over-the-knee boots and a cozy cardigan.

LOOK 1 ; LOOK 2
LOOK 1 ; LOOK 2

Look 1
Splendid tank
Blazer from maruione.jp
Topshop acid wash jeans
Giuseppe Zanotti motorcycle boots
Necklace from kirnazebete.com

Look 2
Splendid tank
DKNY wrap cardigan
Current/Elliot legging jeans
Chloe over-the-knee boots
Christopher Kane fingerless gloves

Pair a more colorful or exciting tank with a high-waisted skirt, black leggings, a black cardigan, and some black flats (or any other neutral color)
tiger tank top fall look

This Look
Tiger tank from mytheresa.com
H&M skirt
Vince shrug cardigan
Sass & Bide leggings
Black flats from peacocks.co.uk
Knit beret from newlook.co.uk

The next summer piece you should save for fall is a pair of denim shorts. They’re super easy to wear with some tights or leggings underneath.

Katie Holmes, Lily Allen, and Kate Moss rock the tights-and-shorts look:
tights and shorts celebs

For a tougher look, wear distressed (not too distressed… just enough to make it look edgy) denim shorts, black tights, motorcycle boots, and either a leather jacket or boyfriend blazer. For a softer, cuter look try a pair of more tailored and clean denim shorts with a pair of bright tights (for instance, red or purple), black flats, and a long-sleeved top like this:

Helmut Lang Wool Sweater
Helmut Lang Wool Sweater

or

Rebecca Taylor Ruffle Blouse
Rebecca Taylor Ruffle Blouse

Finally, don’t even think about packing up those cute dresses from the summer! Dresses are easy to pair with both tights and leggings, so try looks like these….

LOOK 1
LOOK 1

LOOK 2
LOOK 2

LOOK 1
American Eagle dress
H&M tights
Charlotte Russe Lace Shrug
Oxford flats (going clockwise) from lagarconne.com, urbanoutfitters.com, and Christian Louboutin
Monica Vinader earrings

LOOK 2
Dress from dorothyperkins.com
Sass & Bide silver leggings
Flats from moonson.co.uk
Forever21 shrug
Jessica Simpson Belt (zappos.com)
Bangle from fantasyjewelrybox.com

Mom, how would you wear your summer items in fall and winter?

(Erika/Mom) It’s me again. And let me start by saying there ain’t no way I’d leave the house in shorts and tights. I’m laughing just thinking about it. I also won’t touch anything white–memories of white flats worn well past the east coast deadline in the 80s, and the mortification that ensued, prevent me from pushing the envelope on that one.

So I’ll stick with layering, using a favorite sheer top. Think of a top that has some volume to it, so you can layer from below. For example, look at this beautiful sheer blouse I found on Flickr:
BCBG Maxazria blouse

Wouldn’t it look great paired with a very sleek black stretchy top underneath? I’m almost thinking ballet leotard:
black long-sleeved leotard women's

Find a nice-fitting pair of black jeans:
gap black jeans women's

And you’re in business! This doesn’t work well with all summer tops, so experiment. And trust me, don’t experiment 15 minutes before you have to be somewhere. If you have a style-conscious 12-year-old in the house, so much the better. She won’t be shy to tell you just how right on (or far off) the fashion mark you are.

Is Medieval Back in Fashion?

10/08/2009

Medieval woman

(Lizzi/Daughter) This marking period we are studying the Middle Ages in Social Studies. Even though some of the things we are learning about are weird and gross (um, they didn’t clean themselves regularly?!), I’ve noticed that a lot of what we wear today was inspired by what both women and men wore back in the 13th to 15th centuries!

I wouldn’t have noticed this if my teachers hadn’t told me, “Your outfit is very Medieval-looking! Very cool!” For example, when I wore an orange chiffon tunic with leggings and fringe ankle boots. Of course, the boots were more Native American-like, but the tunic and leggings, I realized, were very similar to something a man would wear in the Middle Ages. Or when I wore a pair of slouchy suede boots (Robin Hood style), I also got a similar comment… or compliment.

I found some medieval clothing sketches that look similar to what we wear today:

medieval clothing sketches

This tunic is very Medieval-like, especially the colors and the shape.

antik batik tunic

… here are some more….

tory burch tunic

Tory Burch Linen Split-neck Tunic

delia's tunic
Delia’s Lisette Empire

Flowing, belted dresses were trendy way back when AND now….

anna sui dress
One of my favorite designers, Anna Sui, incorporated a lot of Medieval-looking fabrics and styles into her Fall 2009 collection. This dress happens to be one of my favorites.

And this dress is really lovely also:
etro dress

Now, for shoes. Men in the Middle Ages wore flat leather or suede boots and lace-up flats.
medieval shoes mens boots

black medieval shoes mens

Wet Seal has a lot of nice boots this Fall like this pair:
wet seal boots

And these:
red boots

Women wore embroidered flats like these:
medieval flats

… and Kadam shoes has a wonderful pair that I think grasp the look very well:
kadam flats

Now, put the whole look together:

Medieval Inspiration
Medieval Inspiration by ChicLizzi featuring Etro

And voila! You have a Medieval Masterpiece!

Mom, what do you think of the Medieval trend?

(Erika/Mom) Great history lesson, my daughter! What abundance of gray matter resides in thy head! Hmmm, sorry, I’ll drop the Medieval speak. Lizzi is right–it is remarkable to see how strong the fashion connection is with silhouettes, colors, and fabrics worn 800 years ago. After so many years of jeans and T-shirts this is a welcome transition. I was driving out of Blockbuster the other day and slowed down to let a woman cross the parking lot. She had on a darling plaid tunic and black leggings. Something along the lines of this:

plaid tunic

Paired with either cuffed boots a la Robin Hood or embellished ballet flats, this would look great on just about any 40-something figure. If that figure is on the heavier side, ditch the leggings for black pants, either denim or a really nice fabric blend, like viscose and cotton. If the tunic is long enough, or your legs are skinny but your middle is hefty, a longer tunic and great boots along with nice-quality leggings will make a most comely combination:

Macys tunic plus size
Macys leggings plus size

For us middle-aged women, the Middle Ages is a fantastic fashion era. Fantastic hygiene era? Not so much.

Mutton Dressed as Lamb

09/18/2009

Sharon Tate in miniskirt(Erika/Mom) Anyone who understands this sheepish phrase is most likely over 40. They are also going to understand the agony that plays out in the closet, as they finger their favorite miniskirt and wonder if they can “get away” with wearing it one more season. Not because it’s torn or out of fashion or has a baby spit-up stain right in front…but simply because they’re too old.

Since the Twiggy era, miniskirts have remained a surprisingly strong trend; waning maybe a bit in the late 70s as the romantic, flowy sheer-dress-over-lining reached its zenith (although I could have been seriously out of touch). But always, the miniskirt has been understood as the domain of the very young. Although we’ve done away with corsets, bustles, and neck-to-ankle swimsuits, women are still expected to cover their knees after 40.

My friend Mary Beth Williams, in a recent Salon.com article, ponders the age-old question of “how old is too old for short skirts?” She points to a survey in the Daily Mail, which says that the accepted maximum age for wearing a miniskirt has climbed from 36 in 2000 to 40 today. “There’s a vast expanse of leg between throw-in-the-towel midcalf and hello-sailor butt grazing — surely there’s a place for everyone,” says Mary Beth.

Vast expanse–too much real estate perhaps? Personally, I think my legs have aged well and my husband thinks so, too. But I find it harder and harder to feel right in a miniskirt as time goes on. My body is thicker–there is less definition between waist and hips. Mary Beth and many others in my age group are still very slim and of course they could wear Shop Rite market bags with tube tops and still look fantastic. So there’s the critical issue of weight and body shape.

Am I nuthin but mutton?

Am I nuthin but mutton?

Sadly, there’s another part of our anatomy that you would think was completely irrelevant to a miniskirt, but isn’t: our faces. I may look in the mirror on a good day and see the exact features of myself at 20. (Other days not so much.) But it is impossible to completely disguise an aging face and while many observe that middle-aged women attempting to “dress” young will look okay from the legs to the neck, their aging faces will reveal all. With the exception of Jane Seymour, Sophia Loren and my eternally youthful cousin Laila (who’s 70), the human face is an unyielding age barometer. Miniskirts and timeworn faces are very difficult to blend successfully.

Searching for opinions and images for this post, I came across a blog called Jess in the City. The blogger (Jessica De Vault with the Fayetteville Observer) was discussing clubwear for women over 40 and how often a woman comes across even older than she is by dressing too young. Her summary at the end was pretty good:

“Wearing a mini-skirt (or any other super-revealing, teen-inspired garment) over the age of 40 looks like you’re trying too hard, even if you do have a great body. But embracing your age always looks sexy.”

I think I can embrace my age okay. Hell, I’ve advertised it to the world in our blog name. So I’ll keep on keepin on, wearing an occasional miniskirt when I feel like it, especially with a stupendous pair of tights and some amazing boots. And I’ll embrace my age with whatever outfit matches it best.